I was reading a post by a fave blogger  Sarah Wilson titled Tolstoy’s Rules Of Life – What are yours? The post talks about different rules that we set for our lives and offers Tolstoy’s own quirky rules, aswell as Sarah’s.
As always, her post offered some great food for thought and I went on to think about my own rules for life.
I want to share one of my rules  and challenge you to give it a whirl:
“If you have something nice to say, say it”
How oh how many times do you hear people banging on with “If you haven’t anything nice to say, don’t say anything” – I would prefer to bang on about “If you think something nice about someone make sure you damn-well say it!”
I practice this in my life, and am going to make a conscious effort to ensure if I think it, I say it. Unless of course it is an inappropriate compliment. Not that I think of inappropriate compliments :-)
A compliment is the best gift you can give and it is free. Someone notable once said “What comes from the heart, touches the heart” and it is true.
I find when you touch someone else’s heart it reaches back and touches yours again.
So why not get all heart touchy-touchy?
So, dear readers I challenge you today, and for the rest of your lives, if you think something appropriately nice about someone else, even if they are a complete stranger , say it, mean it and let me know what happens…
Oh, I should add:
I am truly so touched by everyone who comments here, you are a lovely bunch of readers and I do a happy dance whenever you comment and share my posts. It makes me realise what wonderful people you all are :-)
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Sharni, here goes.
I think those pics of you in the swimsuit were so hot! Holy shit, you have legs to die for and you have absolutely no business worrying about your weight. You are beautiful and always have been.
Oh Rhona you are sweet, thanks very much, that photo was when I was feeling good a few weeks back I must say have let myself go a bit since (JUST ACCEPT A COMPLIMENT SHARNI! THAT SHOULD BE ANOTHER RULE OF MINE PERHAPS?)
While we are at it- I am completely inspired by your ability to truly go for a challenge, stick to it and reap super results, and I think you are a lovely singer and a fantastic writer. So THERE
What a refreshing and thought-provoking post Sharni. And what a great way to describe the best in a person…’your chromosomes have combined beautifully’. :)
Sharni, I really like your blog and I love those photos of your awsome kid!
Oh thanks Marika, I really like it when I get a comment from you
Sharni, you rock, this post rocks! x
You know what I think of you Alice, but I had better say it — You rock too xxx
Thanks – you’ve just given me inspiration for my own blog. I think compliment ought to be next week’s Verb of the Week!
Absolutely! I shall check it out
Nice one Sharni, you may change me yet….my mum always says “if you’ve got nothing nice to say, come sit by me!!!” . Haha!
Keep it coming!!xoxo
ahaha I’ll convert you yet!! xx
Sharni,
I love how passionate you are with your website. We both came on line at around the same time and you have always been driven, inspired and inspiring.
As to being nice to others? I think something happens to you once you hit your 30s and have children, and you just randomly find yourself telling strangers things that you like about them (my current embarrassing supermarket habit…beware if you are grocery shopping with hot shoes). Your self -consciousness disappears and you tend to admire things in other women, instead of being envious.
Thanks Alex, geez this post looks like I was fishing, but I wasn’t I swear haha!! You are one of my besties I have never met and am so glad I have ‘met’ you, albeit never (??!) I think you are funny as.
Yes! Sometimes in my work I have to find the good thing in someone or their situation because that is the something that will help them make an effort! They know that so many people will tell them their problems, their inabilities, as if they didn’t already know. Sometimes it’s hard to find the good, but it’s always there. And just recently someone said something really nice about me on the phone to someone else. It made my day, it picked me up when I was floundering. What goes around, turns around. When you do good it sometimes come back to you when you need it, or it goes on to someone else when they need it more! Ali